It’s Thursday already? Didn’t I just start this work week and now tonight I’m heading off to Saskatchewan for a camping trip with Tom’s family. Summer is such a crazy time and lately I’ve been feeling like I’m off the rails with all the things I have to do. Which is what I’m going to talk about today rather than my usual ramblings for Thinking Out Loud Thursday.
You know the movie Yes Man with Jim Carrey? I think that movie is loosely based on my life. I say yes to every opportunity or experience that comes my way. I even say yes when I don’t understand the question. When I was in Spain, my friend Chelsi would crack up over the things I said yes to. Like do I work at the hostel? Yes! Oh wait, actually no, I do not.
While it can be very exciting and fun to live this way it’s also incredibly exhausting. It’s a running joke with my friends and family to ask how many jobs I have because no one can keep track and I usually have at least 3 at any given time. Why do I take on so many things? For a couple of reasons:
Because my interests are varied
Sometimes I feel like a puppy, I get really excited about something and get really into it and then I’m off to the next thing.
I love nutrition and there are so many different areas so when I’m asked to work in a different area, I’m all over it. That means while I work as a Clinical Dietitian Monday-Thursday I also have taken on multiple other jobs. Including being a class educator and Dietitian coordinator for a weight loss program, giving presentations to local running clubs, becoming a consulting Dietitian for a local gym, reviewing menus for adherence to guidelines and the list goes on and on.
Makeup was a passion of mine and so of course I decided to turn it into a career by going back to school and getting a certificate and working as a makeup artist. I love working as a makeup artist but it means that a lot of weekends get filled with jobs rather than fun time.
Blogging is something I absolutely love. It is however a huge time suck. I spend hours every single day on my blog and I always feel like my to-do list of blogging items is never complete.
Exercise is a passion of mine so I’ve often considered getting my training to become a personal trainer or a class instructor. Though I haven’t gone that route….yet.
Because I want to make money
I mean, who doesn’t want to make money? I put a lot of pressure on myself to find alternate sources of income. Being a Dietitian pays fairly well. However, being an engineer (Tom’s profession) pays more. Because of the disparity in our incomes I feel that I want to make more money to make up the difference.
Additionally, my “day job” is only Monday-Thursday which means I don’t make a full-time salary. While this work schedule works perfectly for our lifestyle I always feel guilt that I’m not fully contributing to our family income. Now let me be clear Tom never, ever makes me feel this way, it’s a pressure I simply put on myself.
Additionally any extra money I make, Tom and I use for travelling. That’s a huge motivator for me to work more because I know it means I can go on another vacation.
While making money and exploring my interests is great, I’ve realized that I cannot do it all. I feel like I have 100 balls up in the air right now and sooner or later they are all going to come crashing down on me. I also feel like I’m not giving 100% to any one task. I’m half-assing many things rather than whole-assing a few. This leaves me feeling inadequate & stressed all the time, which isn’t a great feeling.
Also, because I’m so busy with all my jobs and tasks I feel like my friends & family get pushed to the bottom of my to-do list. I’ve had nights where I think, I should call my Mom, but first I have to finish this blog post. That’s not the way my priorities should be set up and it’s not the way I want them to be anymore.
The only way I can reprioritize my life is to find some focus. I need to figure out exactly what I truly want to do and focus on being great at that. So how do I plan to dig myself out of this hole I’ve created?
- Give up jobs – I’ve already gave notice to two of my jobs so I’m well on my way to getting that situation settled
- Exercise – Exercise keeps me sane and helps me manage stress. At times I feel so overwhelmed with to do items that I feel I should skip my workout. But that only makes the problem worse so I have to prioritize exercise on my daily to do list
- Create a schedule – Previously I’ve always said yes to opportunities without considering when I would get the work done. I plan to create a schedule of my to-do lists so I can see if I have openings for new opportunities and figure out how to most efficiently spend my time.
- Learn to say no – This one is obvious. I need to stop saying yes to every opportunity. I need to consider how will it benefit me, when will I get the work done and how will it affect the rest of my life before saying yes.
Are you a yes man/woman?
How do you find focus when you have a long to-do list?